How to Grow Up
The hardest thing for humans to do, based on observation and experience, is give up our Victim Act.
We love pointing fingers and blaming outside ourselves for the conditions, internal/external, that we have created. Being successful at doing this ensures that we never have to grow up, never have to risk giving our gift to the world, never have to Do anything. (Reference the Be/Do/Have triangle. First we Be some way that we desire, then we Do the appropriate actions for that state of Being, then we automatically Have the appropriate material goods/states of mind for that state of Being.)
It’s easy to forget the definition of Child is one who is not responsible for the consequences of its actions, and the definition of Adult is one who IS responsible FOR the consequences of their actions, and responsible TO others for those consequences.
Staying in Victim and Blame also ensures that we are never grounded in our bodies, our feet are never on the planet, and we are suspended in space – we are Lost in Space. It’s also a way to ensure we are never in present time. As Seth says about a gazillion times in his book, The Nature of Personal Reality, “The point of power is in the present.” Therefore, no present/presence and NO power.
Reaching for our personal power is pointless if we’re spaced out in mid-air. First we have to land and put our foot on the ground, get grounded and, hopefully, somewhat centered. As Werner used to say, “Put your sole in the room and you WILL get it!”
The thing to get is this: We ARE our life. The world is a magic mirror; what is projected out from us returns to us as our life, individually and collectively.
Get it? Got it? Good!
* The word ‘responsible’ means the ability to respond in present time. It DOES NOT mean fault/shame/blame. In fact, true Responsibility cannot exist in a context that includes fault/shame/blame.
Copyright © Sandra Dean 2010